Understanding the Heart of a Poet

Have you read poetry in which you would have loved to sit down with the author and asked, “what was in your heart when you wrote this p

oem?”  I have, numerous times.  There’s something about poetry and poets that makes us want to understand where they’re coming from.  And

yet, the poet will tell you, it doesn’t matter.  What is more imperative is, “where is your heart when you read the poem?”  As soon as a poet writes and sends the poem off for others to discover,  the separation process begins.  The poet hopes to inspire.  It’s like a message in a bottle.  Who will find it, and what will they discover in this message?

It is now up to the reader to reflect on the message.  Reading poetry is quite different from writing poetry.  A poet must incorporate a thought, an idea, a theme, a point of view, an emotion into something that when read can be understood by any reader.  It has been said before that some poets write for other poets.  Perhaps in some cir

cles, this may be true, but a poet should be able to write for the masses as well as for the one person who needs it most at any given moment in time.  The poet takes time and pays attention to intricate details, crafting each word.  Sometimes the writing process flows, and other times the process may require more labor and sensitivity.  Who are you writing for?   Poetry is language.  Language is used as a form of communication.  It can be used as a platform in which to bring beauty, change, understanding, clarity, action, forgiveness, peace; anything one could possibly wish to communicate, to the world.

Understanding the heart of a poet can enable us to understand the heart of humanity.  Poets see, hear, touch, taste, smell and write with a poetic sensibility.  Some are better than others.  The more we read different kinds of poetry, the more we are able to see our world through a myriad of perceptions and understand more about how we find ourselves in this world.  Understanding the heart of a poet helps us tune into and understand our own hearts.  We need poetry in our lives.

Human Kindness

Lately I’ve noticed a meanness of spirit rearing it’s ugly head in our world, making disharmony and  uttering endless words saying nothing more than, ‘life is about me, aren’t you listening to me, you better listen to me, I know what I’m saying’, ad nauseum.   What is it about human character that makes people forget that all humanity is connected?  Is it fear, pride, apathy?  Where is the kindness?  Is kindness a virtue bestowed upon only a certain kind of person or  do all human beings have the capacity to show kindness?  Surely all humans crave kindness and affection.

Kindness is defined as the state or act of being kind.  It can be shown by charitable acts, tolerance, a mild disposition,  tenderness and genuine concern for others.  It is not shown in return for gain.  Aristotle wrote of it as an emotion, “helpfulness towards some one in need, not in return for anything, nor for the advantage of the helper himself, but for that of the person helped”. Kindness requires self to extend to the self in others.  Humanity is connected.  We are part of each other. To withhold kindness is to stifle our own growth and well-being.

Kindness can be as simple as a smile.  The philosopher, Nietzsche, said “kindness and love are the most curative herbs and agents in human intercourse”, how we conduct our lives with ourselves and others.  So many humans aren’t even kind to their own selves.    We should go out of our way to extend kindness wherever and whenever we can.

I think most people are known and remembered for the kind of person they are, not for what they think about or what they eat or what kind of car they drive or how many degrees they may or may not have.  When we describe another human, we often use attributes of their behavior to define them.  ‘So and so is kind, warm, full of life.’  Another may be bitter and a complainer or a gossip.  I don’t recall any funeral I’ve attended when the person wasn’t spoken of in terms of virtues and characteristics which we admire.  Although I’m certain there are some funerals in which people may have to dig deep to find the redeeming qualities, as, ‘she certainly spoke her mind, didn’t she.’   Sadly, some live their entire lives wrapped up in bitterness and self.  Life’s purpose may never have been discovered.

The great thing about kindness is it’s something we all want and have the ability to share.  Every single human being wants to be shown kindness.  It signals that we are here, we are worthy of someone’s attention.   When you run into a complainer, as the saying goes, ‘kill him with kindness’. Don’t ever give a complainer what he thinks he wants, which is justifying his complaint.  Simply connect on a different level, and if the connection isn’t there, you’re still in the winner’s seat.  I believe truly successful people, in this thing we call life,  are those who are kind when it’s easier to be a jerk, those who see the benevolent energy going beyond a single situation or encounter, and they embrace the opportunities to extend kindness.   Who are the most important people in your lives?   Kindness starts with your own self and with those who mean the most to you.

My religion is kindness.” 14th Dalai Lama

“Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for kindness.” Seneca

Random Acts of Kindness

Thank you for reading.  Feel free to share.  Spread kindness.

Celebrating Wedding Love With Dave and Cynthia

There is something fragile and enduring about a wedding.  I don’t think I’ve ever been to one without that tug of emotion welling up inside until the happiness overflows into a tear, or in the case of my oldest son and his bride last weekend, overflowing into tears of joy.  I now have the joy of having a daughter-in-law, and she is one very special woman.  We welcome her into our family and are equally blessed to be welcomed warmly into hers.

You may have noticed there were no new posts in the month of October because I was busy with preparations for the wedding weekend, including hosting and planning the night before, which we entitled The Wedding’s Eve Celebration.  As we couldn’t invite everyone, we did include the wedding party and partners, immediate family members and out of town guests who traveled a substantial distance to join in the celebration.  Although the evening was too chilly to be held outside as was originally planned, the event planner and her crew changed venues at the last minute and went over and above our expectations.  We were so pleased with the evening and it gave everyone there a chance to meet each other and to spend time together with friends and family.  The bride and groom were glowing with anticipation and joy.  I was so thrilled to be a part of this evening, celebrating the wedding’s eve.

The wedding was a beautiful, joyous occasion, held on the white sandy beach on the Gulf of Mexico.  There was such a connection with the natural elements, an intensity of rhythm as the surf curled up to the shore, the light of the sun reflecting on the water’s surface and illuminating the late afternoon sky with brilliance and hope and happiness.   The string quartet quietly played Ava Maria as the wind rejoiced with the blessed union shared where land unites with water, the source of all life.

There is so much more I could share, but I will simply close with The Apache Wedding  Prayer,  which was read by the officiant during the ceremony.  The words are poetic and befitting the marriage of our beloved Dave and Cynthia.   Thank you to everyone for making this such a magical weekend.  We rejoice together.

The Apache Wedding Prayer

Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.

Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there is no more loneliness,
For each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two bodies,
But there is one life before you.

Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.

My love, eternally.  May your lives be forever blessed.



Human Survival- Life Is More Than Fight Or Flight

the journey

Human survival is built into our DNA.  In all of life’s tough situations, we make a choice, fight or flight? Why do humans expect that life is supposed to go exactly as we wish?  We can make all the plans in the world and have our life mapped out for success, but we are foolish to believe that our journey will be smooth and without incident.  We all start out in life equal.  Yes, equal.  A man born into poverty and one born into wealth are equal.  The child born blind and the child born seeing are equal.  The child born into abuse and the child born into a loving, nurturing environment are equal.

We are equal in our humanity and in our link to one another.  We are equal in the sense that we all have our own individual journey to travel.  How we choose to navigate the many bends and turns, the valleys and peaks, the deserts and oceans that we encounter is what makes the difference between a journey well traveled or one that is lacking in what is most essential; a sense of purpose and meaning.

Humans want to survive.  We want to feel that our lives have meaning, that we are here on this planet for a purpose.  Without a purpose, we have no connection, no grounding.  We flounder and wander without direction because we think we have to find purpose in something outside of ourselves.  Life becomes mere survival, running away from conflict, responsibility, love or fighting for what we need, our place, our dignity, our space in this world.

Once we can move beyond the survival stage of fight or flight, we can move into our hearts work of service, of giving and receiving  the life force that energizes our purpose and desires.  Life continues to give back to us and we reach a higher realm of conscious living in which our true essence is expressed.  We can begin to creatively communicate with effectiveness and power.  Our words and our work, our presence is energizing and illuminating.   We can see this in any field where a person has reached this place in their lives where true genius and inspiration flow from their beings.

There is the highest realm where an individual realizes their connection to all life.  It is a place of acceptance and serenity.  Some call it bliss.  Peace.  Coexistence.  It is that place where human potential meets divine, where we can truly understand that we are not just humans, but human beings.

Not all of humanity will reach this pinnacle, some will run away their entire lives, some will fight their entire lives.  Some may think life is unfair and harsh and cruel, as it surely can be, and others will find that life is fair, and compassionate and kind.  The blind man may hear sounds so eloquently that he is able to communicate beauty and harmony with his voice.  The child born into poverty may realize that life is bigger than boundaries and limitations and decide to fight his way to that place where he finds opportunities are waiting.  Our life is within us waiting for us to expand and blossom and scent the world beautifully with our presence.

How Do We Define Success?

Each and every day we wake up to a clean slate, a fresh new day.  Success is available to anyone who decides to define their own success.  It comes in many different flavors, different colors, styles and sizes.  What someone may decide as successful may look quite differently to another person.  For some, it may mean a six figure income.  For another, it may mean being able to conceive and have a healthy child.  I could define success as having achieved happiness in my life regardless of circumstances.  The bigger picture is being able to honestly evaluate our lives and determine if we are living to the fullest of our potential, or at least attempting to live to our fullest each day.

I remember when I was in college and had an interim year field assignment in my chosen career path.  I decided to keep a daily journal of my year and write out a daily goal.  At the end of the day or the next morning, I would record some of the highlights of the day. I had made the decision to keep it positive, yet realistic.  I wanted to see a pattern of what I was able to accomplish on the days that I stayed focused on my goal.  Some days I was more successful than on other days.  I still have those journals and I find them amazingly refreshing to read.  The year was so successful for me that I was given the chance to mentor another colleague from another country.  He was sent to New Orleans, where I was living that year, and I was to simply let him ‘shadow’ me and learn.  I was honored, and yet humbled at the same time.  My style may have been different than his, but the basic keys to success work for everyone, regardless of gender, culture or location.  Basically, I believed I could achieve success, I made a daily goal and took action to make it happen.  I then recorded and reviewed what I did and looked for patterns of what worked and what didn’t work.  We tend to complicate it by failing to become focused and believe that we can achieve.  Believe you are worthy of success and take action.

If you would like to read further on how to find success and how to achieve your goals, I encourage you to read my articles on HubPages where I write about different topics of interest.  Thank  you for reading, and stay focused on what you want to accomplish and success can be yours.  You can also sign up and write on HubPages which is a great place to write, publish and have the opportunity to produce passive income.  Success starts within.  Enjoy!

Why the Gulf Oil Crisis is More than a Crisis

The oil is continuing to gush into the Gulf, once again, without the containment cap, so they can check to see if ice crystals are forming after underwater robots bumped into the venting system and sent gases through the vent.  It seems to be a crisis that is much more than a crisis.  It is a living, breathing monster threatening to destroy the waters of the Gulf of Mexico and those who depend on the Gulf waters for their livelihood.

Now it is days past and the containment cap is back on.  There is no reassurance that the two oil relief wells will stop the leak.  The leak is not a leak.  It is a gusher.  It spills into our waters like a poison. It is alive.   How do we stop it?  Why isn’t it stopped?  How long do we wait as this crisis becomes the bleeding wound of a planet with eyes blindly obscured by greed and control?  I have written more of why I care and why we should care at my site on Hubpages.  Please read and feel free to leave a comment.  The Gulf Oil Crisis; Why I Care.

A Breath of Sunesis

Reading on patio~~

reflecting~~ observing~~

I look at the sky, the clouds, even the blue,

the space between the clouds and ‘see’ consciousness.

I see me, IAM~~

I hear it in the breeze, in the song of the bird,

the scamper of the squirrel, the ebb and flow of the sea,

the roar of the lion~~

I feel it in the water around me,

the warmth on my skin from the rays of the sun,

the tingle from a moment of awareness,

the rhythm of my body~~

It’s scent is in the blossom,

the rain upon the earth, the blade of grass~~

I know it is me, it is you,

we are one,

we do not exist as separate,

only in our mind identification are we separate~~

God realization is BEing,

presence is flowing,

connecting,

merging.

God is no- thing.

I am no- thing.

I AM [you]. sigh~~~~~

a breath of sunesis~~~

love~light~ rebekah

Awakening

I feel so much an awakening taking place around our world. The universe is contracting with moans and groans and human beings are awakening. Sometimes we wake up peacefully on our own, or with an alarm, some sort of noise to alert us, and then there are those that physically need a shaking to wake them from sleep. The world, obviously needs to be shaken because that is what is happening. There are plenty of humans awakening, but far too many are still asleep … SO the universe has to do the shaking itself.

We need to shake it up, shake out the monotony of human existence. Change something in your daily routine if that’s all you can do. Get up earlier, take a different way to work, eat something different, smile at every single person you encounter in an hour or a morning, or sing and dance all by yourself. Hey, you could even dance in the street! (I actually did dance in the street one time in Eureka, CA. I’ll never forget how liberating it was, all by myself.)

Reach out your hand, your heart, get involved in humanity, make a difference, volunteer someplace, spend time with someone you’ve been thinking about but never call. Each day of our lives IS supreme when we are awake, when we awaken to the amazing reality of infinite possibilities. We are extraordinary human beings, let’s experience true humanity and reach out and make a difference.

It costs nothing~~

love~ light~ rebekah

Hello world!

Welcome to rebekahELLE.com. This is a place where I share with the world my thoughts about life, current issues, the ways in which we all are interconnected.  I try to look at the world through eyes of compassion and understanding and curiosity.  I discuss humanity, environmental awareness, education and parenting issues, keys for success and happiness.  I also share my poetry and prose when inspired.

I welcome your comments and hopefully they will be genuine.  I hope you will visit often and see what I am thinking about.  It may be the same as you, or may give you a fresh perspective to ponder the wonders and absurdities of our wonderful world.

love, light~ rebekah